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Kristin Herbert

Kristin Herbert

Phone:  (424) 325-5599

Email:  kristinherbert4therapy@gmail.com

At A Glance:

Specialties and Certifications

 

  • Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist

  • Neurodiverse Couples Specialist

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

  • Certificate in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

  • Clinical experience and training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Relational Therapy

  • Specialize in couples, creatives, and others who identify as “highly sensitive”

  • LGBTQIA+ allied

  • Culturally Sensitive Approach

 

Life Experience

 

  • Multiple and varied neurodiverse relationships including partnering and parenting

  • Former careers in literary and academic book publishing, creative and professional writing, and education of college students, incarcerated youth, and children with learning differences

 

Education

 

  • M.A. in Clinical Psychology

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #141308

Kristin's Story

Conceived accidentally during the “summer of love,” I was surrendered by my birth parents as an infant, then adopted and raised as one of two adopted children. Reunited with my birth parents and extended families on both sides as an adult has resulted in an inconclusive, ongoing self-study of nature and nurture.

 

Following my divorce as a young adult, I earned an MFA in Poetry at the University of Pittsburgh in an effort to turn my heartbreak into poetry. My writer’s resume, in addition my own published poetry, fiction, journalism, and creative nonfiction, includes working as a university instructor, in academic and literary book publishing, as a massage therapist, and at educational nonprofit for underserved populations including foster youth.

 

After my second divorce,  as a single parent navigating complex relational trauma recovery and learning to accommodate and support the neurodivergence in my family, I earned a Master’s degree in clinical psychology and began training to became a therapist.

 

Now, I am ten years along in a blended family that includes a spectrum of neurodiverse brains and nervous systems: those of my own and my partner, our combined four children, and our dog and cats.

 

I find inspiration and meaning from my ongoing work with an array of clients who share the courage to turn inward in order to better understand their experience and relate ever more deeply to themselves and the people they love.

Main Areas of Focus
Neurodiverse Relationships & Attachment

Relationships require difference; if we all perceived our experience of the world in the same way, we would have nothing to relate to one another. Difference enlivens and enriches our individual worlds. Just as reading enables us to imagine living in another body, another gender, age, place, and time, so do our partners and children.

 

But sometimes, differences can feel scary, frustrating, or alienating. We may feel alone or rejected when our partner or parent doesn’t understand or validate our feelings and experiences. We may get louder or use more evidence as we try to persuade one another of our goodness, our authenticity, our truth. We may be trying to understand and adjust to a diagnosis of our child while wondering whether we and/or our partner may also be neurodivergent.

 

Like partners in adult relationships, children are wired to notice their parents’ most nuanced responses. When they sense disconnection, their bodies respond instinctively.

We all go into survival mode to preserve our safety. But two frightened nervous systems cannot reconnect in healthy ways, and we can find ourselves stuck in patterns that don’t feel good.

 

Parents of neurodiverse children need extra support to stay connected to one another and to their children as they navigate such ever-changing challenges. I support parents as they strive to understand and support their children and relate to one another from their most authentic selves.

Creating Safety

Together, we will create a non-judgmental space that assumes that everyone wants to love and be loved. We’ll use a both-and approach, where everyone’s feelings are valid, everyone’s behavior makes sense as a communication, and everyone has an important role in co-creating family culture. We’ll focus on cultivating curiosity and acceptance through reflective listening and validation.

Boundaries

The most intimate relationships, paradoxically, feature clear boundaries. We will explore the boundaries that do and do not exist in your family and how boundaries can support better connections. We’ll map the boundaries that feel right to you and practice having conversations to understand one another’s needs and negotiate boundaries.

Child-centered Approach

Parenting is one of the most vulnerable and challenging human experiences. We all want our children to thrive. Being a neurodivergent child in a world designed for neurotypical people is often difficult, and watching your child suffer is excruciating. As children try to cope with sensory overload or struggle with self-esteem, parents can veer into well-intentioned but ultimately ineffective and even counterproductive strategies. We will work together to decipher behavior as communication, understand and validate needs, formulate child-centric goals, and craft a working model of communication that respects everyone’s perspective. As parents informed by each child’s ongoing input, you’ll be better able to forge a shared approach to achieve your family’s best experience.

Other Areas of Focus

 

  • Parenting, including Single Parents, Co-parents, Adoptive Parents, and Step-parents

  • Improving Co-Parenting

  • Exploring and Fine-tuning Coping Skills

  • Understanding and Healing Family Dysfunction

  • Establishing Healthy Boundaries

  • Implementing Self-Compassion and Self-Care

  • Processing Relational Trauma (cPTSD) & Post-Traumatic Growth

  • Mapping Attachment Patterns

  • Processing Grief and Ambiguous Grief

  • Healing from Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma

  • Discernment Counseling

  • Processing Grief related to Infertility and/or Miscarriage

  • Supporting Caregivers

  • Identifying and Healing Burnout

  • Supporting Life Transitions

  • Exploring Identity

 

Clients

 

  • Couples

  • Individuals (including Single Parents)

  • Families (including Divorced and Blended Families and Single-Parent Families)

 

Modalities

 

  • Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples

  • Existential Therapy

  • Experiential Therapy

  • Attachment-based Therapy

  • Compassion-focused, Humanistic Therapy

  • Culturally Sensitive Therapy

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Narrative Therapy

  • Psychodynamic/ Relational Therapy

  • Trauma-Informed Therapy

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

  • Coaching

 

License

  • Licensed MFT #141308

  • Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc.

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