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Making Friends:
A Guide for Autistic Children

Are you having trouble making friends and feeling like you are different from others? Don't worry, you are not alone. Many children who are on the autism spectrum struggle with making friends, but with a little guidance and patience, you can build strong and lasting friendships.

Struggles and Feelings


Being different from others can sometimes be tough, and it's okay to feel frustrated or sad about it. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own unique talents and qualities that make them special. When it comes to making friends, you might feel shy, nervous, or have trouble understanding social cues. That's okay, too! These are common struggles for many children on the autism spectrum, and with a little help, you can overcome them.



Sometimes, children on the autism spectrum try to hide their differences by "masking" their true selves. This means acting like everyone else or pretending to understand things that they don't. Masking can be helpful in certain situations, but it can also be counter-productive because it can be overwhelming and make it harder for you to be yourself.

Making the Best of Friendships: Making friends takes time and effort, but with a little practice and patience, you can do it! Here are some tips to help you build strong and lasting friendships:

  1. Find common interests: Look for things that you both enjoy and talk about them. This could be a hobby, sport, TV show, or movie. When you have common interests, it's easier to find things to talk about and do together.

  2. Be a good listener: Let your friend talk about their feelings, thoughts, and experiences. Pay attention to what they're saying and ask questions. Showing that you are interested in what they have to say will help them feel valued and appreciated.

  3. Be yourself: Don't try to be someone you're not. Authenticity is key to building strong and lasting relationships. When you are true to yourself, you are more likely to attract friends who appreciate you for who you are.

  4. Ask questions: Get to know your friend by asking them questions about themselves. What do they like to do? What are their favorite things? What do they find challenging? Showing an interest in someone's life will help them feel more connected to you.

  5. Be patient and kind: Making friends takes time, so be patient. Also, be kind and understanding when your friend makes a mistake or doesn't understand something. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has different ways of learning and processing information.

  6. Show empathy: Try to understand your friend's perspective and feel what they are feeling. Empathy may seem difficult but it helps build trust and strengthens relationships.

  7. Be respectful: Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Be respectful of your friend's feelings, opinions, and boundaries. When you are respectful, your friend is more likely to feel valued and appreciated.

  8. Offer help: If your friend needs help with something, offer to assist them. Whether it's carrying their books, helping with a project, or just being a listening ear, your friend will appreciate your support.

  9. Share your feelings: It's okay to let your friend know how you're feeling. Sharing your thoughts and feelings will help you build a deeper connection with them.

  10. Have fun: The most important thing is to have fun! Laugh, play, and enjoy each other's company. When you're having a good time, making friends is easier and more enjoyable.

Final Words

Remember, making friends takes time and effort, but with a little guidance and patience, you can do it. You are special and unique in your own way, and there is someone out there who will appreciate and love you just the way you are. Don't be afraid to be yourself, and always remember to show kindness, empathy, and respect towards others. Building strong and lasting friendships is possible, and you can do it!

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